Things my husband’s death has taught me

I am sick in bed and using the time I have to reflect on what I have learnt since the passing of my husband.

Here are my views and opinions on what I have observed from him as well as after his passing. 

Life is short. Stop postponing things. Tell your loved ones how you feel before its too late. Forgive. Let go. Live for the now. Tomorrow is not promised. When you die the people you call friends forget about you and what truly mattered to you, the trivial things are all they will remember. Live so that you are remembered for character and not worldly things. Instill those characters in your offspring. Make provisions that your dependents are seen to. Keep your affairs in order. Have a will. Salaah (pray) more. Live for the Akhira (hereafter). Don’t neglect the important relationships. Make time for your loved ones. Spend less time on worldly pleasures. No one will take care of your family as you do. Do what you love and what makes you happy. Live for yourself and your immediate loved ones (these are the people who will feel your loss harder than anyone else), no-one else matters. Stay away from negativity. People will try to bamboozle you especially if you are a a woman. Everyone has opinions, not all are educated and informed. Live by your standards but guided by Allah (God) and not by those of others. 

These are but few.

For all those suffering silently, may Allah(God) make it easy on you.

Muze

We don’t ask for the test. But still it comes. And when it does, it is like the rain –fierce, cleansing –stripping us of all our complacency, our self-satisfaction, our forgetfulness. And, like the rain, our tears flow, taking us back to the prayer mat, back to the open hands, back to The One who sent the test, the only One who can release us and make us whole again. Alhamdulillah ala kulli haal. Alhamdulillah for it all. – Naima B Robert